balance of opposites

What would my blog be without a post about my other half? 

She's the force that has changed the direction of my life in so many ways. She's the reason I found myself after an abusive relationship at my lowest point in life, why I got serious about my life, and my biggest supporter in our move west to Portland a year and a half ago. 

Being in love doesn't mean that you're exactly like your partner. In fact, my wife and I are almost complete opposites. She's a night owl, I'm an early bird. She's into crossfit, I love yoga. She's never met a stranger, I'm pretty introverted. I think you get the idea. 

For our relationship to work, its a constant process of communication, patience, and flexibility. For the first few years of our relationship, we thought that we had to do everything together, and we would force each other to join the other in activities that we simply didn't enjoy. Its taken us a long time to get into our groove of finding our individual activities as well as finding those activities that we can bond over together. I want you to know that it's ok to be independent. It's ok to need alone time to regenerate, even from your partner. I'm a firm believer that although you have your life partner, it doesn't mean every second of your life is meant to be shared with that person. You have to make yourself happy, before you can make another person happy. 

Its a balancing act for sure, but at the end of the day, its all worth it. 

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